3 Steps to Quit Comparing Yourself to Others

3 Steps to Quit Comparing Yourself to Others

Comparing myself to others is a constant battle. I’m always looking at other women’s blogs and websites and trying to see how they “do it.” How do they seem to have their whole life together and put out beautiful content online? I know no one is a perfect, but just putting out your life for everyone to see so that it seems perfect is intimidating.

For the past week or so, I’ve read up on how to brand myself online, how to stay motivated while blogging, how to better myself and my career, etc. And I’ve found myself trying to do it all in one week so that next week it will be perfect. Yeah, not the best way to look at it.

Every day we (women especially) are bombarded with this idea that we have to be perfect and we have to have a perfect life and we have to be happy and smiling all the time. We look to strangers to tell us how to decorate our homes, how to raise our kids, how to please our spouses sexually. I’m only 28, and I’m already sick of being bombarded with so much of this “content” that’s constantly in my face competing for my attention.

So how do you put yourself out there without comparing yourself?

I don’t have a magical list of answers, but I’ll tell you what I do.

First, I remember why I’m doing what I’m doing.

Whatever it is that you are doing — whether it’s photography, yoga, blogging, whatever — remember your reasoning for it. Are you posting to help others, to motivate yourself? Hold on to your why. Write it down and make sure you can see it each day.

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Secondly, understand that the bloggers you follow have been blogging for years.

They started off just like you with an idea and they stuck to it. But just remember that no site is made in a day, even Instagram accounts with thousands of followers.

Third, tell yourself that you can do it!

Just because you think someone else is doing it better, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t even try. You are unique. No one else has your voice. And there’s no one else in the world like you.

That might sound like some millennial crap, but it’s actually true. Even if you are an identical twin, your twin still isn’t you. Only you can be you. (Do you, boo!)

So if you find yourself comparing your blog to someone else’s, snap out of it. You might even need to unfollow accounts that trigger those insecure feelings. And remember that as women, it’s better for us to stick together than to compete with each other.

I hope this helps you in a small way along your journey. Thoughts, comments? Don’t be shy. I’d love to hear from you!

Have a great week!


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  1. November 15, 2017 / 7:07 pm

    This is a great post. I agree that you have to be authentic and know why you are doing what you are doing and not worry about other people. I also struggle with comparing myself to others. I just wrote a post entitled “Unhealthy Competition: What is My Problem?”

  2. November 8, 2017 / 4:38 pm

    OMG I totally understand where you’re coming from. Pinterest has been the devil for me recently because everyone else’s content just seems so much better than mine and I’ve found myself wondering if I’ll always be playing catch up! Definitely have to constantly remind myself that God will create a space for you!

    • November 8, 2017 / 4:40 pm

      Yes!! Stay encouraged!! You are exactly where you need to be!!

  3. November 7, 2017 / 10:59 pm

    Jasmine I’ve owned my own business for a few years now and I think you hit on what a lot of new business owners struggle with. I was always looking at others becoming frustrated by there success. A little bit of that is ok for motivation but I let it consume me. Ultimately I got past it and learned to be happy. My business now does very well and I started my blog so I could help other small business owners succeed. This was a great article and it touched home for me. Keep it up.

    • November 8, 2017 / 6:32 am

      Awww thank you for sharing your experience! Glad someone else can relate!

  4. November 6, 2017 / 1:16 pm

    This is a great post! Well done🤗

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